"if you're still thinking about something, you're not over it."

"i'm so over it"
"it's done"
"we're done"
"hey remember when this happened with so and so? that was so funny! too bad i hate him now!"

Had an argument with my dad a few months back about something stupid.... i think it was because i painted my nails without protecting the couch or something.
In the fight i happened to bring up something that was said between me and my lil bro that hurt me. I was expecting some sympathy on my dad's part, and maybe a quick forgive and forget, but instead I faced an even deeper wrath when he told me that I should only be worrying about the here and now, and stop thinking about the past.

The argument that day made me realize one major thing..... I know I (and many other girls) are very good at harboring our thoughts. We differentiate ourselves from the male race in many ways, but I think one of the most distinctive but definitely one that flys under the radar is our ability to harbor words spoken and actions performed for days,months....even years, in some severe cases. While guys get mad then get over it......... girls get irritated, slightly pissed a few hours later, then "over it". Notice the quotations.
Like clothes on the floor of my room, the actions and words in our heads pile up. They pile up and pile up, until eventually I can no longer see my bedroom floor and my mom blows her top.
My happiness/peacefulness with others works the same way. Bff disses my jacket in November, and clothes pile on the floor. However, a few months later, she decides to ditch me for her boyfriend of a year and a half and the amount of clothes on the floor is equivalent to the amount in a full laundry basket. The jacket is still there, under the pile, and only adds to the misery.
It's a vicious cycle, and I've really been working on trying to break it. But anyways, now to the main reason for this post.

On that green nail polish argument day, my dad said some very insightful words. "Get over things that happened in the past. They're over, they happened, and you can't do anything about it. If you're still thinking about it or talking about it, you're not over it."
Time and time again I hear people say they're over stuff. But back to my metaphor.......... saying you'll clean your room isn't the same as actually cleaning it. Sure, you can try and paint it a lighter color to make the room look bigger, and therefore your mess of clothes smaller, but at the end of the day a fresh coat of paint isn't going to pick up all that crap on the floor.

So on the eve of May 1, I think my goal this month is to clean my metaphorical room.
Still thinking about that girl that talked smack about u in grade 10? Get over it. She has.
Still pissed about the boy who u gave your heart to and he totally did not take good care of months ago? Well... you know what they say. If the shoe doesn't fit, don't wear it.

We don't wear clothes that make us feel bad about ourselves or don't flatter us. So why should we occupy our minds with people and events that make us feel bad about ourselves and doesn't flatter us? Like a good pair of jeans, which makes you look and feel amazing, the people in life I want to surround myself with are the people that compliment me and don't make me feel like a work in progress...... but a prize.